Criticism Can Talk and Listen

Criticism is to art what history is to action and philosophy to wisdom.-------Northrop Frye (1912 - 1991)

Critism is a vital component of human communication. With its absence, the opportunities for self-improvement would be lacking. Good criticism is absolutely necessary as it gives the chance to prove ourselves and solve problems. It should not leave us squashed but inspired to progress. This good criticism sounds admirable, until you face the real world and realise how deppressing daily common criticism can be. Everyday put-downs may contain a great deal of truth even if vulgarly expressed, usually from authoritative parties and people that don't care how you feel.

Criticism is a potent influence in everyone's life. Malicious gossip that is inevitable in anywhere may be groundless but it affects others' opinions, and more importantly -very difficult to erase. This problem probably arises due to the nature of human communication skills, criticism often picks up on small aspects and misses out on the whole picture. At its worst, a criticism will focus on the negative and eliminate the rest, leaving you feeling utterly worthless. Words can really wound, it causes emotions to get in the way very quickly either when giving criticism and receiving it.

How to give Criticism;--

1. Bad news sandwich - Find something positive to say then offer the criticism, then reiterate the good points. This way, you should be able to get more attention.
2. Don't give one when you are in a bad mood.
3. Avoid put-downs / insult
   
4. Don't giggle or give awkward shuffles - That is message enough.
5. Keep calm and aim for constructive communication
6. Don't criticise someone in public.
7. Aim for positive approach - Positive statements suggesting a better alternative.
8. After you finish criticising, stop and listen for response.

How to take Criticism;--

1. Criticism is a inevitable 'gift'. Answer to them assertively and learn from them.
2. Deal with the criticism for the first few hours, or else it'll disturb you for a long time.
3. Step back a little when u are criticised, try not to get hurt.
4. If you know someone is gossiping behind your back, get them to sit down and talk with you.
5. Think! and decide what to do. Don't just act for the sake of acting.
6. If the criticism is rubbish, listen and forget.
7. Sometimes, remember- its not personal.
8. Think of it this way, these people cared for you to criticise you that you can change for the better.

As a conclusion, i demand a better world with better response to criticism and a higher standard in critism giving. Adios.

Ref: UPS